Goal Setting 2

Whenever I set myself a goal, there's a little preperation I like to do first. This is essential because whenever you set a goal you need to ensure you are thinking freely and feeling on top of your game.

First of all I need somewhere quiet. A place or space I can call mine. Once I'm there I like to open up my mind to all possibilities. I do this by sitting or lying still. I close my mind to the outside world by concentration on the inside world. A really quick and simple way to do this is to concentrate on ones breathing. Pull your entire focus on your breathing. Notice the frequency and duration of each breath. Next, notice your own unique sound that you make when you breathe and also notice that if you have not already closed your eyes, it's now time to do so.

Some of us are aware of the many converstions going on in our heads. By honing in on our breathing, it makes us aware of two things: first, we notice a crucial bodily function that we do not even have to think about and second, you become aware of your self. When you get really good at noticing your breathing, the conversations will begin to fade and eventually stop.

Now, I'm about to go on a bit about breathing so please bear with me. It seems like a perfectly ordinary thing to do but like I've already said, breathing is crucial to living. In fact, you can go several weeks without food and several days without water but you cannot last more than 3-4 minutes without oxygen.

Bearing this in mind wouldn't it be beneficial if we could breathe effectively ALL the time. I can hear you thinking "this is a bit of a joke" and "what is is this guy on about?" but I can assure you that if you change the way you breathe you change EVERYTHING. You change your mood, your ability to think, the way you digest and the amount of energy you feel you have. If you can feel on top of the world, think freely, gain all the nutrition you can from each meal and live with an abundance of energy then do you think you could change your life! You betcha could!

So this is how you do it guys. Most of the people reading this will be shallow breathers. You allow oxygen to get to the upper third, maybe upper half of your lungs before you exhale. This creates 2 issues. First, you are not maximising each breath and second, you aren't getting oxygen to the area of the lungs that are most effective for you.

To get oxygen to the lower half of the lungs on your inhale, you must breathe by pushing your belly OUT. Yes, I said OUT. At the same time your shoulders must NOT move. The shoulders should be relaxed while you push your belly out. This is the correct way to INHALE. You may like to imagine a sponge or a beach ball inflating inside your belly. Let it all the way out and get your belly to be nice and round. Go ahead, have a go, there's nobody watching!

To exhale correctly, try deflating the sponge or beach ball by squeezing it with your belly. This ensures that all the waste gases are expelled from the lungs.

You will also need to allow time let oxygen get from your lungs and into your blood as well as allowing waste gas (carbon dioxide) to travel from your blood into your lungs. So the correct sequence is:

INHALE, PAUSE, EXHALE

I was taught that you should breathe in, pause for 4 times longer than it took you to breathe in and then exhale in half the time that you paused for. Sounds a bit confusing doesn't it? Basically, if you breathe in and count to 5, pause for a count of 20 and exhale for a count of 10 you'll be fine. You can count as quickly of slowly as you like; just keep the same speed for one cycle of breathing.

Once you've completed 5 cycles of this type of breathing you'll be feeling rather mellow and very chilled.

Once you've started to feel this way we can start to allow ideas and thoughts to enter our minds.

Till, next time... live long and breathe deeply

Goal Setting 1

By now you can conjure up an image and play with it. You have learned that no matter what image you bring to mind, you can change its meaning by changing the way you think of it. And when you change the meaning you can change how you feel. This means that you now have a very powerful tool which you can use to change your life in almost any way you choose to.

If you haven't done so already, you should have a go with other images. They can be any image you like. I suggest you also think of an image or situation that represents the opposite of your first image. Take note of the different ways that you represent these worlds in your head.

You can do the same thing with emotions. For example:

-what does JOY look like to you? How would you represent it? And how would you alter your image to make it even more joyful! Does it require more colour, more light, more movement or more sound. Maybe it needs less of something. It doesn't matter what you change because whatever you change is the right thing for you to change.

And then, if you feel brave enough why not have a go at MISERY?!! How do you make that image or representation (it may be a sound, for example) less miserable?

Continue to think of other situations that have opposites within them e.g. parachute jumping vs potholing. Do they produce opposite feelings or very similar feelings. What would you change in the picture to make the feelings change for the better or the worse?

Once you've got the hang of the way that you represent the world in your head you're ready to start thinking about setting goals that you are drawn towards, feel real and are achievable.

Family Man v Outstanding Guy

Let's start by examining the difference between what your family man and your outstanding guy mean to you.

If I were to ask you to describe a family man what would you say? Think about it and think hard about the details. You'll need to ask yourself questions like the ones listed below to get a true idea of YOUR family man:

-Is the chap in your mind tall or thin?
-Is he good looking or average?
-What is he wearing? Do you like what he's wearing?
-How is he wearing the clothes (good/bad fit, open collar or tie etc.)
-Is he doing something?
-Is he outdoors or indoors?
-What's the weather like?
-Are there any sounds? e.g. is your chap singing or talking, are there birds singing or does the sound of water dominate
-Is your picture dull and gloomy, is it in black and white and is it small?
-Or is it bright, shiny and in full panoramic technicolour?
-Is there much movement in your image?

There are many more things that you will notice and I cannot tell you what they are because the picture in your mind belongs to you and is therefore unique. That makes it exactly the RIGHT picture to be looking at. Spend at least 2-3 straight minutes working out all the detail about your family man

By now you will have a much clearer idea of what your family man looks, feels and sounds like. You knew all these things but didn't consciously think about them. Now that you've brought this to your attention you may be thinking "WOW! Did I really put all that together?" Well. the answer is yes you did and remember, it only took you a few seconds to create it, if that, so give yourself a huge pat on the back or even a hug!

Now you've got the idea, I'd like you to do the same thing for your outstanding guy.

You should have spent around 10-15 minutes reading and doing this exercise by now and now that you have a much clearer idea of how your family man differs from your outstanding guy, you can really start to think about the differences between the two men, their surroundings, how they talk, stand, look and act. Also, you should pay particular attention to how YOU created the pictures. Was there a difference between the picture sizes, the level of colour and the vividness of the image. Was one easier to create than the other?

My first insight for you then is that HOW you THINK affects WHAT you FEEL

"What do you mean?", I hear you all cry.

Well, have you noticed that the different sounds, colours and textures are directly related to what you felt when you conjured up the images. But better yet, and this is where the magic really begins, if you turn up the volume, change the picture size, add movement or turn up the lighting you will change how you feel towards each guy.

You can do this anytime you like about any image you have.

Why you would do this and when will be covered in the next blog.

Till next time, have an outstanding life.

In the beginning...

I am just an ordinary guy looking to have an outstanding life. I've searched the internet, I've looked through books and been to the best seminars in the world...

Eventually I found my answer and this blog serves to prove that an outstanding life starts from within and radiates out to everyone you meet.. every day, every hour, every minute and every second of your life. I will share my insights and thoughts in the hope that you might read something that lights a spark in you.

If your light already burns brightly then please share your thoughts. .

On this blog, I will share with you the secrets of how I maintain a passion for life and how I try to be a shining star that touches others and I want to hear your stories too...